It is not often one can experience a celebration exactly to his liking. Generally within the populous of individuals I know as my friends a good time includes a luxurious and hedonistic trip to a place of gathering where the music makes one deaf, the lights cause seizures and the alcohol formats unwanted memories.
Yesterdays not the case. We gathered at Team Poland's place to grill and sincerely enjoy each others company. The scene was set for chillage that one can only imagine in a world involving day dreams.
It is not my intention to write a “wrap up” of the excellent time I had, but there is one thing that I noticed which is incredible: Gossipology.
Usually at such an event the mass of the entire group comes together merely once, to sing “happy birthday,” otherwise most people speak in a fractured type of way. Two people over there, four over here, its very self explanatory. But the most interesting thing was consistent observation by those who later would submit their analysis toward how they view whatever character they were talking about.
I suppose it is not generally nice to ease drop on conversations, however, but I could hear all of it without trying.
This brings to me to some general points on Gossipology and its tenets.
First in order for gossipology to occur there needs to be a minimum of three individuals involved in the process. Within this group two of the individuals need to be better friends than the factorial of 3 or whatever. When that one less friend leaves is when gossipology can begin. Yet it must be noted that gossipology need at minimum of three but most commonly it occurs with larger groups. The maximum number of participants is six, anything more and it can get complicated because there can be micro applications of gossipology and as such it would dilute the events. This meeting and discussion is known as a “hot minute,” or “hot hour.”
Now, this activity is not for the faint of heart. One must be able to suspend his or her capacity to be a good moral person. Some would call this activity “a proper analysis and/or reflection of the evening's characters,” said a good looking female last night. I would harshly disagree with that notion as it happens DURing a designated “hot” time.
The setting of such an affair can be anywhere, preferably some sort of circle is formed to create a sense of equal time to share an experience.
When the subject matter is brought up it is the proverbial ice breaker. No one wants to initiate a “hot minute” or “hot hour,” by themselves. It would inadvertently crown this person as the one who is most likely to gossip in other scenarios. Usually a silent consensus is reached when a participant says something borderline “hot,” and another participant seconds this change in direction in terms of the conversation. By doing this it validates the presumed possible gossip starter as just one in the crowd.
As the conversation descends further into detail and description the predatory need for subject matter is salacious. This is where the gloves come off and emotional feel of the conversation sometimes subconsciously reverberates from a pejorative sentiment of insecurity. This is what I think the “hot minute” or “hot hour,” does, it deflects the shortcomings and pitfalls of the gossiper to the gossipee.
Beneath the this veil of “rational discourse,” is some seriously detrimental, treacherous, maniacal analysis of ones peers and it is not good for people. Some would posit that this activity can shine light on an injustice, such as a boyfriend treating his girlfriend like a piece of shit. Yet would it not be better to simply state your grievance to the couple? Rather than watching it and allowing it to happen call the boyfriend out on his inability to emote loyalty and his wandering eye. Don't wait and simply call him a slimy, booty staring douchebag during your meeting.
The problems of this hot activity expand far beyond itself. One participant can mimic something like inception and put the idea into someones head that the individual who is the subject matter is something he or she is really not.
Take for instance if you would a situation where you've known a person for a couple of years and it was a relationship a bit north of acquaintance but south of full blown friendship, and this individual suddenly becomes the main course of hot hour restaurant. Now, you personally have known this individual and thought of him as a stand up guy or girl. They've never done anything wrong to you nor are you aware that they have burned anyone else. One participant mentions him or her, and then another blindly seconds the motion. They begin to rain shit on this individuals overall true persona. You're in an awkward place, to defend this person would mean to undermine the “hot minute/hour,” and to submit to the tendency to the group would make you feel highly disingenuous and probably guilty. What you would be experiencing during this dilemma is your higher consciousness begging you to be the better person.
Gossipology is a tough field. To get involved means you're going to get dirt on your face, shit in your mouth, tears on your cheeks and a tolerance for disrespect so potent it burns a hole in your soul.
Alright, lets watch some Entertainment Weekly, I've heard Jennifer Aniston uses cut baby foreskin to clean up her pores! Or does she?
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